Coping with Difficult Experiences in Medicine

what's up YouTube welcome to another episode of the undergrad forum now in this video we're gonna talk about what if you don't get excited like everyone else about all the things that happens in medicine you know if you're on you're like oh be kind rotation everyone's like okay you saw the birth of a baby you really better be excited and like how this amazing heartfelt feeling or you know you run the ICU and like a patient past and you're supposed to like be absolutely broken and need to like talk to people or whatever else or whatever happens at any stage in medical school there's like a general community response that people seem to expect from you and my thing here is what if you don't feel that you know what do you do then and the reason I bring this up is a lot of people like so now that I'm like senior resident I have like a lot of junior residents but I have like a lot of med students as well on rotation and they all talk about the same thing you know we go down to the IDI they call a stroke code you know someone's obviously not doing well they can't speak well they can't move a side of their body whatever have you you know we're thinking about pushing TPA and you know some students are very like affected by it you know some junior some interns you know the like oh my god you know this person's got like a left MCA they're not speaking they're not moving the right side of their body they're like you know this is very like painful to them you know they can be like family around the patient around these times like crying and panicking and you know you got to kind of manage that as well and what happens in these situations you know we're using a pure neuro example because you know that's kind of my life you've got some students and some interns and juniors who are like very affected by it and then you have other people who just aren't you know it's like okay looks like their left MCA you know are they in the window should we you know is the restaurant back to me candidate they're very focused on that as well and some people are very focused on the emotional component obviously in addition to the science and the question is this comes up a lot because I'll kind of get pulled aside by one of the interns or juniors or med students and they kind of want to talk about it and really I get people who talk about it with me on both sides on one hand you have people who say you know like I'm really affected by it this is like a big deal to me and they want to kind of talk about it and I would say that's a very like traditional response people are impacted by things that happen in medicine you know it's probably new to them it's very emotional you know whether it's you know in other situations the birth of your first baby that you see an OB guy and that can be very emotional or like the passing of a patient who is very critically ill in the ICU or like a stroke patient here who were trying to like push TPA on you know these could impact people and that's a very common conversation that I have with like the juniors and med students regarding like what it means and how we have to like manage the family plus the patient you know that's very routine and if you feel like that that's fine that's completely normal now the other point is what if you don't feel like that what if when you saw your first baby delivered you weren't like oh my god like okay baby I delivered or when someone passed away in the ICU you were like okay you know they were sick they passed or you know someone comes in with like a left MCA you're like okay you know um looks like a left MCA you know let's move on you know what about that you know and I also get a lot of students who are like that and they come up to me and time after time it's the whole reason I'm making this video people come up to me med students and juniors who are like hey man I didn't get the same like big emotional response as other people or something wrong with me like what I do and my answer to them is always the same nah dude don't worry you're completely normal no matter how you feel you know there's no like stereotyped expected response that we have from people you feel however you feel and you feel confident about that okay it's who you are you know I can't change that so what you can do in this case is if you're you know say you're seeing the birth of a baby for the first time as a med student and maybe it didn't strike you as too like inspiring or wow that's okay you know just keep it to yourself you know you don't have to go around telling everyone oh I wasn't impressed or whatever you know just keep it to yourself and you know be polite and it's you know the the senior resident or whoever maybe is delivering the baby with you and you know they kind of want you to share some experience if you see they're happy you know sharing their happiness as well you know you don't have to have a whole oh my god this is amazing response so you can just be like normal you know but just be polite and that's okay you know or if we're down there in the IDI and like you know we're trying to push TPA and like families crying the parents you know not speaking right now as a patient you know that's okay you don't have to be like quiet down you know I'm not impressed by this you could just be like yeah I know it's really tough you know support the family support the patient again you don't have to have this crazy emotional response you can just be whatever you are so don't worry about it you know however you feel is however you feel it just it blows my mind that people feel that they need to do something and to be like in the general consensus of how the community is feeling no way no way you feel however you feel if you're excited you have positive emotion great embrace it if you're a little bit more indifferent or it's not sparking some big emotional excitement into you that's okay as well embrace whoever you are embrace whatever you feel in medicine or even in life you know if things are going on and you don't have the same emotional response or same feeling as other people that's okay just be who you are be true to yourself and reflect and make sure what you're feeling you think is like healthy and safe and go on with yourself nothing to worry about and that's what I tell all my juniors and med students don't worry about what other people are doing worry just about yourself if you're content and you're happy about all you've about what you feel that's all that matters how everyone else feels is their thing you focus on yourself all right guys let me know what you think you know there's a lot going on in medicine it's a very emotional field there's lots of ups and downs and you're very involved in it as the med student position a resident or whatever you have you so let me know what you guys think – have you had a moment in time where maybe you didn't feel the same way everyone else did and you kinda just kept to yourself or what are your thoughts drop it down in the comment section below I read them all I try to thumb them up or down comment on them I try to heart them you know I read them all I love to hear what you guys think you know remember just stay true to yourself do whatever you want it's your life live with yourself at the end of the day you know that's most important don't worry about other people alright guys hope you enjoyed this video and as always enjoy your studies


  1. So true, when I was a med student and went to labor room for the first time and saw the busy nurses and howling n crying patients….I felt like I could never pull it off.
    Whenever the patient would scream in pain I used to feel a similar pain and agony …… It's weird.I felt I could never hold the needle holder and perform.

    But gradually as I increased my visits in the labor room , casualty etc..I came out of this situation. I was able to detach myself from the patient. It took time in my case almost 6 months…but eventually I could perform minor procedures and stuff.I could care for them even by being detached.

  2. The empathic and humane way of being is the best way to communicate and interact with patients. 👨🏻‍⚕️

  3. Great vid! I’ll be entering Med school this winter so this is important information to be aware of.

  4. Thank you so much for this video. This really does not get talked about, and really should be. Not experiencing emotions that everyone else seems to be having makes you feel like an outsider, and no one deserves to feel that way. In my own experience, it sucks the most when a higher up makes it seem that you aren't meant for that specialty if you haven't. I really needed this video.

    Anecdote: my first time as a med student in the OR was pretty meh tbh (my main goal is something in surgery). I was focused but felt have felt more focused doing other things. Afterwards when talking to my mentor, he told me how enamored he was when he first went into the OR, which made it especially difficult when I didn't particularly have the same emotions. I digress.

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