Game Addiction – II: How to Defeat Game Compulsion – Extra Credits



伙计们欢迎回来。 今天
我们带着我们的好朋友MacKo回来 继续我们关于游戏成瘾 (或者,如果我们称之为游戏强迫症的话)的讨论 上周,我们谈到了围绕游戏强迫症的炒作 并谈到了为什么会有这么多的孩子 在屏幕前度过他们的日子 今天,我们将关注 最常与游戏成瘾相关的问题 青少年和成年人从现实生活中抽身 投向虚拟世界的怀抱 我现在就告诉你:
这一集会有点不寻常 我们几个星期来
一直在想办法回答 詹姆斯已经重写了好几遍剧本了 我想自从他开始动工后 我已经看过十五个不同的介绍段落
和十八个不同的结束语 我所知,他的公寓里 还放着一本划得很惨的笔记本 每次他都觉得的
这集永远都写不出来了 但我想我们已经弄清楚了 一直以来
我们都试图在这个问题上保持客观 并以我们通常的学术、临床的方式
来报道这个话题 但我们逐渐意识到
这一次可能不是正确的选择 特别是对詹姆斯来说
这个话题离我们守备范围太近了 我们认为更好的作法
是保持我们自己的诚实和偏见等等 所以我们今天要做一些
非常不同的事情 因为这个话题对詹姆斯来说
有更多的个人意义 所以我认为最好是由他来谈论 所以,是的。 (嘶) 嘿, 大家好 丹可能已经告诉你了 但这可能是我最难写的一集 我-我做不到。
(嗯)这就是我得到的。 这是我的经验 我对游戏强迫症的体验
以及我现在的处境。 今天我得到了这个启示 因为今天
我和我所爱的第一个女孩谈过了 十年后她回来了 上次我见到她的时候
我们是十几岁的孩子 现在她是医生了
我有很多美好的回忆 我记得我在我的RX 7引擎盖上吻了她 然后我自己逃离了这座城市八年 但我们来到这里
一边喝着咖啡 一边回忆过去
那似乎是美好的一生 (嗯)我们是成年人。 我看着她轻轻松松地笑着
这是我们小时候从未有过的 她长大了我也长大了 而且(呃)那一刻我意识到了
生活变得更好了, 我离那个尴尬的孩子有多远 当她第一次认识我的时候
我就知道我会来 我清楚地意识到 当你不放弃的时候
生活会有多美好 这是我曾经做过的事 (嗯)当人们谈论“游戏成瘾”时 他们总是问为什么游戏会上瘾(呃)
而不是他们填补了什么空白 就在这里
对话出现了问题 当你经常选择游戏 而不是你知道的重要的事情 或者你停止参与你曾经认为重要的领域 因为你以前觉得玩游戏很重要 你会患上游戏成瘾
或者游戏强迫症 – 我踏上那条路; 我最亲密的朋友冲出了这条路 (嗯)但是没有人会这样做
因为他们的生活是完美的 没有人拿起一个游戏
只是成为一个瘾君子 (嗯)当你正常的时候,
我想这就是问题的核心 游戏不会让人上瘾
但它们提供了一些东西 他们为我们提供了一个验证 人们常说“游戏成瘾者”
是懒惰或懒惰 或无能或愚蠢
但没有什么比事实更离题了。 (嗯)更确切地说
我遇到的每个人 在他们生命中的某个时刻 都是“一个充满希望的孩子” 其中(某种程度上)存在着一个陷阱 我看过聪明能干的人 把他们的生活淹没在
游戏的安全不现实的背后 当现实世界告诉他们
所有他们 认为对自己有好处的事情都是不值得的 当他们拥有所有的智力
推理的能力 顽强地实现目标的意愿时 他们仍然会被抛弃
或者失去工作 或者得到离婚通知 到了那个时候
他们转向游戏 因为游戏和他们一致认为 这些特质是重要的 (嗯)他们奖励他们 游戏奖励人们“正是这些技能” 不幸的是,在这里
至少在美国, 高中和大学是一个世界 向我们展现那些我们最自豪的事情 其实不太被人重视的时刻 一些我们觉得自己最好的东西 对我来说是高中 当时我有很多事情要做 我在剧团里发现
我其实不太融入 后来我有了我的吉他
游戏之外的许多事情 我可以增强我的自我意识
然而我仍然走在那条路上 从(嗯)从 Ultima Online 开始 我记得我第一次按下键 让我的角色在睡觉的时候跑到墙上 演奏一种乐器来提升技能 我觉得自己很聪明
我走进了大不列颠的世界 比我的世界更令人兴奋 它让我修补和探索 它激发了我的好奇心
我的教室从来没有 (嗯)'我曾经在拨接上玩过MUD
所以这似乎没有什么不同 但这是我第一次经常
睡不着觉跑去玩游戏 这是我第一次
发现自己的日子 被电子世界的想法所占据 在课堂上
我会想象新角色的塑造 当我应该做作业的时候 我会白日梦到那天晚上
在游戏里跑步 我告诉自己没关系。 我的成绩下滑
但我仍然以很大的差距通过了一切 我还是跟我的朋友出去
我只是认为游戏(呃)好玩。 (嗯)'接下来是星际争霸。 我在学校找到了这个小房间
有一台电脑 可以上网
(呃) 它具有不受限制的安装权限 (嗯)和(呃)……我开始
在那里度过我的大部分午餐 这很有趣
因为这是一个房间 配热管道贯穿其中 所以大多数日子都是一百度 (嗯)但是我还是待在那里
不去理会有多热 或者是我该吃什么 我可能错过了什么 (呃)但最后是 …无尽的任务 (呃)我是一个 Everquest 瘾君子。
我承认这点 我最好的朋友逃学 在上线日给我们搞到两份 copy 他比我大一岁 我们是通过戏院认识的
在游戏上有很好的交集 (呃)他就在电话那头 当我们一起在凌晨三点在 Britania 上猎杀 Ettins 当我们在 Battle.net 上 2v2 时
他就在区网上 在他偷了这个女孩之后 有六个月我们没有说话
我很迷恋这个女孩 但是那个时候太害羞了
不敢约她出去 他从来没有想过 这应该是我的警告信号 他太专注于游戏了
所以他从来没有把我受伤的原因连在一起 但最后
我们又在游戏上联系在一起 所有的事情都被原谅了
毕竟还有谁有办法懂到我的笑话的点 大多数关于游戏的笑话。 (UM) (嗯)在接下来的几个月里
(呃)我们是恶魔
我们是推动者 我记得有几次 我们(呃)有少数几次
我们自愿离开了房子 嗯
如果你-你熟悉西雅图
我们开车去奥罗拉 给我另一个非常亲爱的朋友
买一台便宜的电脑 他是个狂热的Mac用户
他的车上贴着一张Mac贴纸。 (呃)但这是他的第一台电脑 (嗯)我从来没有说服过他买一本 但是在我们一天又一天地告诉他 有关 Everquest Everquest最终赢战胜了 在那之后(呃)
我的成绩真的开始崩溃了。 我-我退出了我的演出
实际上我很生气 我得到了一个很大的角色
但我所能想到的是它将如何切入我的磨 (嗯)我(差不多)靠热口袋和号角过日子 (嗯)我会为如何在课堂上 偷睡而制定策略 我知道什么的课程
我可以通过课程 而不真的看课文 (嗯)然后它(某种程度上)
达到了它的最低点。 我有点变成了在课堂上服缓刑
但我不在意 我做的第一件事是
去玩点无尽的任务 试着忘掉它。 (嗯)我其实
记得那天晚上。 (呃)我们(我们)正在等待
一个很远的地方来 的一个朋友
(嗯)他上了船 来我们的区域
但他一直没到 他只是不停地来回穿梭 每次我们杀了谁
我们就会-
我们会在其中一个划船区看到他 (嗯)因为他-
他在船上睡着了 我们一直笑个不停
我们觉得这很荒谬 (嗯)我们甚至没有意识到 我们甚至不能保持清醒
玩我们自己的游戏 这是多么荒谬
我们就是这样被绑架的 (嗯)但是幸运的是
事情在那个时候为我改变了 (嗯)有一天晚上
我们都应该去看电影 但我在那个时候太过分了 我(呃)我错过了
(嗯)可能是下意识的 可能是故意的
(嗯)我-我错过了电影。 因为我(呃) 因为我猜我不想见到我们的朋友 (嗯)和‘由于某种原因 我们这群朋友中最胆怯
最安静的女孩也没能来 直到今天
我都不知道为什么 当时我做了一件不寻常的事 但我打电话给她 问她是否想去看下一场演出 到了晚上
她就在我怀里了 (嗯)在那之后
事情有了一点好转 (呃)她负责学校戏剧的灯光 她让我以舞台手的身份在剧中回来了 (嗯)我们会谈论大学 她会给我看她收到的所有小册子
他们给她寄了很多 她在SAT考试中得了满分 (嗯)和‘我开始走出更多的(呃)
和(某种程度上) 我的意思是
她更放开了 并变得更加社交
这非常好 我减少了游戏时间 我的朋友们在我们差距缩短
的时候加快了速度 我想, 在 30, 35 级时 (Everquest) (叹) 然后有一天
他们出现在我的门口 我的朋友们。
我的同伴们在我漫长的旅程中
度过了几个小时 (呃)他们对我说的第一件事是
“扩张包出来了” (呃)他们进来了
我们开始讨论这件事 我们要重新 用新的种族开始新的角色 他们需要有人做他们的治疗师 (呃)我们讨论了几个小时的新区域 为什么经验值涨这么快 我们如何开始谋划如何改进我们的派系 使之回到-回到旧大陆 而不被杀害
如果你们中的任何人…… 如果你们还记得库纳尔。
(嗯'和呃) (嗯呃)到晚上结束时
他们告诉我 他们帮我也搞到了一片 我打电话给我爱的女孩
告诉她我只是 我需要一个周末和男人们在一起。 当我离开的时候 他们会.
他们实际上是学习了Linux 并建立了一台机器
为ShowEQ (呃)这个程序
这个程序读取从服务器发送的数据包 这样他们就可以得到各种各样的数据 比如可用地图, 怪物产卵信息
所有这些东西 (嗯)这是一次全新的体验。 我们每件事都跑得更快更好 新种族很强大
然后我们开始疯狂冲等 很快
我再次回到那里
几乎每天晚上 (嗯)出现了同样的模式。 我有点让我的真实生活分崩离析 我.我并不为我生命中的许多事情感到羞愧 但我为当时的一些行为感到羞愧 (嗯)我让很多我关心的人失望了 我错过了很多重要的时刻 有一天 我最好的朋友的女朋友来到大厅
把我拉到一边。 她告诉我
前一天晚上 她一直在乞求他上床睡觉 而他却坐在那里看新区域的照片 (嗯)当她在我胸口哭泣的时候 告诉我无法和电子游戏竞争 是多么的丢脸 她多么讨厌这些东西
这就是她的感受 (呃)我的意思是,
我去安慰她 因为‘(我的意思是)有趣的是 (这是)我之前迷恋的 那个女孩 那个在我逃离的时候 那个我拒绝跟
我最好朋友六个月说话的
那个女孩 然而
当她在我肩膀上哭完之后 我就告诉她我会和他谈谈 但我回去告诉他
正是她所说的' 但是我回去告诉他她刚才说的话
然后我和他一起策划如何让事情顺利进行 尽可能少地浪费在EQ上玩的机会 (叹息) 我的意思是
我不知道我说了什么 但我几乎没有感到羞愧的回忆 我一直试图用一套
非常简单的信念来生活 尽可能少伤害别人 尽可能多做好事 让没有人会说你是伪君子 (嗯)差不多就是这样 但每次我想到那次谈话 我的肚子就有点纠 你知道你是谁 我知道你可能看不到这个 但我还是很抱歉 直到现在我还是很抱歉 虽然那次经历震撼了我 我试着告诉我所爱的女孩 我是如何在这个游戏中挣扎的 相反的
我只是漫不经心地告诉她 更多关于这个游戏的事情
告诉她离开是多么困难 尽管我知道‘我想向她表达我 我知道我会更乐意
花更多的时间和她在一起 (嗯)当我在闲逛的时候
在结尾的时候 我几乎都是在讲EverQuest的事 都在在讲迷雾之城的事 当她停下来的时候
说 詹姆斯
我想我可能怀孕了 (嗯)这个(呃)
我震惊了 这是现实的大堤崩塌了 洪水卷了进来 我抱着她。我告诉她了
我有多爱她, 我愿意为她做任何事 那天晚上我告诉她
我会摆脱所有我的愚蠢游戏 我觉得很可怜
可悲和悲惨。 她上周一直表现得很奇怪 但我没有注意到这一点
因为我太沉迷于我的幻想世界了 但她说话的那一刻就变得很明显了 很明显我错过了很多 我的老师和导演 过去对我大声说的话 有多少是被这种
对另一种存在的过滤所切断的 我求她原谅我 我答应过要比以前做得更多 幸运的是
她并没有怀孕 但这段经历让我
我有时间玩游戏的时候 却把EQ收起来 我没回我朋友的地下室 他们生我的气
因为我抛弃了他们 他们感到被背叛了
他们的治疗师离开了 就在我们要开始做迷雾之城任务的时候 但我发现生活会永远欢迎你回来 这才是最重要的 我提高了成绩 重新加入了戏剧小组
我拿起了一把吉他 整个夏天我都在努力准备SAT考试 我(呃).秋天的时候 我花了几个小时(原本可以玩 EQ)的时间 来写作和重写我的入学论文 我想挤进大学
就像想解 EQ 任务一样渴望 我在游戏中所投入的所有技巧 我发现生活对你使用这些技能是有回报的 你必须把它们应用到正确的事物上 并像你玩游戏时那样顽强地运用它们 但生活还是欢迎你回来 我从来不会说一切都很容易 或者很完美 我不会说我 我用这个赢得了每一场战斗 但我最终还是进了我梦寐以求的大学 我几乎在每个州都演奏音乐 最后我做了我喜欢的游戏 今天
为Everquest设计核心系统的人 是一个亲密的朋友 那个为了电脑骑到 Arora 在Popcap工作, 离我们住的四个街区 Richard Garriott 甚至为我写的一本 关于发明语言的书写了一章 我-实际上 我甚至看到了几乎所有的公民奇迹 生活很美好。 (嗯)最重要的是。 他们和我一起疯狂的努力 我仍然像在玩Everquest那样 对待每一个时刻 通过严格的思想和应用 来克服挑战 我仍然选择一个理想的目标 并为云雀
试着找出如何结束那里 无论是作为一个独立的设计师 或得到谈论游戏每周与令人敬畏的人 (嗯)我仍然用游戏这堂课教我的道德 但是虽然我上了很多课 但是我为他们付出了太高的代价 而我的朋友从来没有学会 (嗯)一年前他就退学了 他无法保住一份稳定的工作 也从未搬出他父母的地下室 (嗯)我最后一次听说他是在几年前 当时我在 Popcap 的朋友 想给他一个测试职位 他持续了几个星期 (嗯)他(某种程度上)使他的游戏上瘾 游戏冲动
自我(强迫)自我实现预言 他(呃)生活没有达到他的期望 所以他转向一个接一个的游戏 但是当生活给他机会时 他会跑回躲在游戏后面 因为他害怕生活会再次排斥他 生活会再次拒绝他。 但真正的生活总是欢迎你回来 你不能太快就逃跑 我知道有几十个和游戏成瘾做斗争的人 他们中的每一个(呃) 尽管有着被拒绝和失败的前景 但他们中的每一个人(呃)
都勇敢地迈出了第一步 勇敢地回到现实世界 被开放的手臂接纳 (呃.)一旦你过了高中 也许过了大学 你会发现生活包含着玩家的心态 如果你使用游戏教给你的所有东西 并且你为之而战 现实世界中有一些
你在游戏中永远找不到的奇迹 所以如果我 只是‘我知道这不会运行很长的时间
而是一些更快的事情 如果你觉得自己 有游戏冲动的话 不要把你花在玩游戏上的时间看成是浪费时间 永远不要认为自己是绝对无可救药的落后 这不是真的
总是有选择的 这样的想法只是一个借口 只是继续使用游戏逃避现实生活 (嗯)但你不必这么做
生活会欢迎你回来的 其次,瘾君子推荐垃圾。 如果你的一个朋友正试图降低他们的游戏 或破坏他们认为是破坏性的东西 不要引诱他们回来。(呃) 这发生在我身上,
而且我有时也做过。 这是坏消息,不要这样做。 (UH) (呃)我的意思是
我认识的每个人 都和我有过类似的故事 他们一旦摆脱了游戏冲动(呃). 是他们的朋友把他们带回来的 。(嗯)和‘所以 我的意思是
我想只是不要是那个人或更多 (呃)最后
你要知道你并不孤单 我是说
如果你有游戏冲动 这是我年轻的时候没有意识到的 但是(呃).你不是一个人 不只是在网上
也不只是在现实世界里 (呃)有千千万万的人 面对着和你一样的斗争 和你一样的恶魔 社区是来帮你的 游戏玩家表现出更多的爱 我-我向你保证
我们不同家庭的成员 将愿意帮助你 找到你的GED 注册社区大学
申请一份工作 没什么丢脸的。 事实上
如果您有任何类似的问题 (呃)请随意使用我们的Facebook页面。 不多
但这是个开始 我们将尝试(呃) 在Extra课程论坛' 如果幸运的话
到这个视频放映的时候他们就能上线了 (呃)作为大家聚在一起讨论这些事情 分享他们的故事的地方 (呃)有需要的时候请大家帮忙 所以,(嗯)我不知道' 我很抱歉 我不能写更多关于游戏成瘾 游戏强迫症的临床集数 但这就是我所拥有的
这就是我
很简单的事实 所以
我希望它能对某人有好处 因为
(我不知道)如果-如果一个人 如果一个人迈出了他们想要的生活的一步 因为所有的血液都流进了这个过程 那就很划算了 你知道吗? 我还在玩游戏。 因为我-我是靠这个谋生的 我没有时间像以前那样玩他们了 但这样的生活会更好 祝你们好运
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45 comments

  1. Man, I just really want to give this dude a hug, not entirely sure why, I can't relate to this very much, but he is just being so open I want to reassure them it's good

  2. Everquest, those were the days, except I actually only played Infantry Online, which was a much smaller game on the same network as Everquest. I probably put 1000 hours into it lol

  3. …………I'm in the midst of walking away from a couple years as a compulsive gamer….heck probably more but this is the longest continuous streak I've ever had to break.. I recognized how important it was that I start playing games that I could pick up & put down on a whim. And you know what? I had no idea how much was going undone in my life until I put the games down & had a good look around. Literally! Something as simple as the state of my living space. When you haven't cleaned a litter box in 2 and some weeks…and your cats still use it? There's a whole counter full of dishes because you have no option but to wash what's left by hand… The care you put into yourself pays off. It makes you feel better, more comfortable in your own home. The helpless furry lovebugs who worship the ground you walk on will be happier. It's an all round win when you take the time to take care of yourself & those you care about. So yeah… Grind life guys. It's MUCH more rewarding.

  4. One thing I can give as advice is find a passion. I have played less games and thought about it less simply by choosing to be productive and create my own game, from research, to the writing

  5. i suffered from gaming compulsion for… over a decade

    it wasn't about the videogames… I had undiagnosed ADHD. I was self-medicating with games. was a real epiphany when I took medicine and stopped gaming almost overnight.

  6. Thank you so much for this episode James, I find it so hard to leave my computer nowadays, even though it's not game compulsion but computer compulsion the result's the same, I feel like I would love to be able to go out there and do stuff, but I know that I will fail, and more important than that I feel like I would be alone, failing with friends is one thing, failing alone is a different beast. I just can't seem to be able to connect with other people, people like to go out and drink beer and chat about football or about other people, I'm pretty much disgusted by alcohol and the effect I've seen it have on other people and really couldn't care less about people that I don't know kicking a ball, don't really like to talk about people that aren't there either and I get a huge amount of anxiety if I try to talk about what I feel or about what excites me because nobody seems to care or understand it, I feel so alone. But you got through it, and even if it's only baby steps I'm sure I'll someday too, even though I'm scared as hell, hope never truly left me, and so I thank you for sharing this with all of us, it just adds a little more to that hope <3.

  7. Watching this kinda helped me with my suicide wants I sometimes feel like I don't matter my death will help the world but know I feel a bit better I don't think I have game compulsion but this kinda helps me with it thanks EC thanks

  8. So… you abandoned your friends because of your girlfriend (cuz she told you she was pregnant I mean). Nice! And your comment about life… get stuck in a cubicle from 9-5, 6 days a week and then tell me life is beautiful.

    I understand that games can definitely ruin your life, but sometimes you don’t even need games fir your life to go to shit. Either way, what you did were your choices and you gotta life with them. I was addicted to ffxi and played every free second of my time. Stopped playing when I didn’t have enough time to play. Cuz beautiful life granted me beautiful bills, so I had to get a beautiful job from 11pm to 8am. I no longer play ffxi, though I do still play games. But the worse game of all is life’s game. You work in a job that you probably hate (80% of Americans hate or are indifferent to their job). Buy things that you don’t need. With money that you don’t have. To impress people that you do know. And before you realize it, the things that you thought you owned, end up owning you. So spare me the hippy philosophy. Life sux most of the time. But I am here, and I gotta stay alive, tomorrow will be another day. I actually envy your friend that lives in his parent’s basement.

  9. So aside from that game addiction is real thing th message of this is that games themselves are not the cause?

  10. I like to watch videos from this channel (especially Extra History) when I get home from school, then I play video games until dinner and most days, hours after that still. Yesterday I saw this episode, then unplugged my Xbox and thought about this video while finishing my homework. This is one of greatest explanations of/meditations on the relationship between games and their players that I have seen, much more of the impacts of game compulsion. This episode helped me accept something I had realized, but never done anything about. Games have been getting in the way of my school work and I need to prioritize school stuff because games are compulsive and eat up nearly all my time when I'm not at school. This is my favourite video I've seen you guys put out so far and I think I saw it a really good time for me. Thank you for delivering a comprehensive message that I think all people should hear.

    With regards,
    James Camacho

  11. I almost cried. Been there, done that, got out of it, still I'm playing games sometimes, sometimes not playing for months.

  12. Hi. Not really the same thing, but I have been quite addicted to YouTube for about half a year. This video gives me a lot of motivation to get back to the important stuff in life. Thank you for sharing your story!

  13. Thanks James, even after 6 years your video helped me, the time this video was launched I had like nine, and kinda had that problem and still today, trying to break free, this day I saw it, it helped me more than I can ever think of, thanks.

  14. Hey, James, the story you shared was very touching and great and I would like to ask for some advice from you or anyone reading this comment. Recently, CSGO became free to play and ever since I played it today, I have found that even hours after playing it for just about twenty minutes I have found myself just wanting to get back to the game in a way I have never felt with any other game. Is this a sign of game compulsion? Should I stop now before I become too addicted to it after just twenty minutes of playing it? Also, what's stopping me from playing it immediately right now (and what stopped me from playing it longer than 20 minutes) is that I have a lot of chess training to go through which replaces itself daily with new things to solve and I have to complete it all before the end of the day meaning that I don't have much time for anything else

  15. Thank you so much. I was trying to know my pain and trying to cry it away for almost a year now… I finally cried. To me it's the adult life that showed me some dark things and other stuff. Thank you so much for sharing, even if it has been so long now. The funny thing is that in 2012 i was entering college hahaha. Even if you don''t read it, please someday, if you of EC needs a reminder of the change you made in the world, come to this video comments. You helped people understand themselves and enjoy game with more depth and responsability. Thank you!

  16. Personally, I think a lot of people go deep into games to escape the many horrible people (Not saying you're horrible, just saying there are horible people) of the real world.

  17. Interesting, how people can have similar but different experiences when dealing with addiction. ANYTHING can become an addiction, drugs (alcohol, smoking, pills, etc.) entertainment, sport, work… everyone finds faith during the most difficult times in their life.

    I refound my faith and belief after getting my face smashed in during a home invasion at my house. I used to run away from my home, family and life but being stuck, hospitalised, allowed me to mend my relationships and rekindle my love for gaming. I never struggled with addiction personally, but I also lost my friends when I found the love of my life and found out what a real and healthy relationship can be with a person. I never had any bitter feelings towards my attackers, in fact, I am glad that it resulted in the way it did.
    Today I finished my 2nd bachelor's degree in Psych (still going strong for that Doctoral) and I help teach communication and conflict negotiation to business leaders and potential young leaders. I use gaming as that sweet reference point to push the new generation towards understanding themselves and to take care of the people around them.
    Ty for the amazing work Extra Credits (Dan, James and Allison, +) your positivity and knowledge-seeking nature is what this world needs most.

  18. I think your distinction between gaming compulsion and addiction is more semantic than you think. Most people turn to drugs for the same reason you state that people get caught up in compulsion.

  19. I've had a combination of game compulsion and depression since before I can remember, I've had 3 girlfriends, hundreds of thousands of hours played across several games. My grades have slipped, I try to apply myself but with that deadly combination of depression and game compulsion, I can't get anything done, I'm trying to apply myself but it's near impossible. Video games gave me a love for history, I now want to move to Sweden to work for a game company that combines history with video games, video games are the only thing that give me joy, I want to work for a company that combines my two greatest loves, computer programming and history, I would love to move to Sweden to work for my dream company, I just need the capital to move, and to graduate from uni

  20. I have never had someone explain this to me and this was so powerful for me to watch. I didn’t know it at the time, but I suffered from Game Compulsion. Hell, I might be suffering from a different type of compulsion right now, and this video has put this into perspective for me. When I was 20, I was playing games so much and so late that I would leave my girlfriend at work, after hours, waiting for me to pick her up for at least an hour, sometimes more. I stayed up so late and so long that eventually I crashed my car head on into a bridge. I walked out with only a few bruises but after that my girlfriend dumped me, saying she was unhappy, and I began to realize that the problem was me. Never once, though, did I acknowledge the fact that I turned to games to fill a void in my life. To feel like I wasn’t a failure. For so many years since then I’ve almost been seeking out a time like then, where I could play games all day with no repercussions…but I realize now that there were repercussions, and that I don’t want to relive that part of my life. I was lucky for what happened, soon after I joined the Army, I left home, and I have never played games that way again. Knowing now what it was, has helped me to better understand myself.

    Thank you so much for this video.

  21. This was the best video about game addiction i've ever seen.
    It's much better to hear those, who were victims of it theme self instead of politicians or psychologist who think they know everything but they never played video games or have really listent to a victim and just want to convince people that video games are bad

  22. When you don't feel validated by your surroundings in any way, fantasy worlds are an escape. A place where you actually mean something. It's unfortunate when this happens to a person, but self-actualization is on the pyramid of Human Needs. People can talk trash about the "addict", but they never seem to offer any meaningful help. To this, I offer a little advice. If you are surrounded by toxic family members and frenimies, and you find yourself relying on the game/anime world 100% for Self-Actualization, it's time to move to another State, or maybe even a new Country, and start fresh. Build a new life that means something. Your Waifu is not a replacement for an actual living breathing Woman that actively cares about you. Find her. This is your new Quest.

  23. This. After I went on a weekend binge of Spider-Man last month i swear I’ll never do that again. I will hence forth pace a game out over the course of months. AC Odessy will last me 4 months, and RDR 2 will be 5 monthe

  24. Wow… just hearing it helps me alot….i was listening to it during class and it gave me motivation to really give it my best

  25. I love playing games and my dad used to show me the ropes and play with me all the time but I wasn't the best student and I probably drove him away from teaching me. I've also learned enough to be my own teacher and the only time I avoid any other interaction is when my dad's busy or I'm at my Mum’s (she's crippled so there's not much we can play besides board games ( I'm not the best person so when my constant opponent can't win I get bored of the game I love) that's why I am mostly upstairs playing games. I've grown up with games by my side as both my teacher, a tool, and a way to connect, now they’re a way for me to blow my time away when I'm bored, the enjoyment withers but they are my closest possession to a real person. My situation isn’t as grim as people with game compulsion problems but I thought I'd share. Thank you for your story James, keep pushing

  26. Thank you for sharing this very powerful story. I suffered from it a bit myself, but I also got past it and every bit of this powerful video is true. I can only hope that others have found this video and used it to help themselves. Remember as he said gamers, we may be separate physically but we will always be together mentally. If you struggle with this find someone to talk to, anyone, even if you think you might suffer from it just a little bit.

    I've actually been thinking of something new, a category called healthy gaming habits, I'm not sure if it will be a book or whatever, but just a sort of guide people can use to kind of use in case they want to have a baseline to keep themselves from falling into the abyss that can be gaming. It will contain things like what to eat, drink and just normal tips to make sure you're doing the healthiest gaming possible, it still needs a lot of work, but wish me luck.

  27. Game is just another escape from reality just like alcohol and drugs although if you had choose your poison it's better if it's games. I've had it mildly myself but hey if reality is not that interesting what can you expect.

    You learn eventually everything is good in moderation although you might get hyped about it eventually you will get bored of it or it will turn out to be too much of a time sync which gets annoying after a while.

    It's also true that you get into games much more if you have friends to do it with but at that point is it any different than going out for a drink with them In may way you enjoy yourself more in the game than a noisy pub.

    There is no point in your girlfriend getting possessive over you playing games or hanging out with your friends they have nothing to do with her although if she joined in on it that would lead to more bonding i guess.

  28. Me: This is not an acceptable video quality and twenty eightee-

    Nvm

  29. Oh boy, this is really hard to write without hiding behind a 'nym, but here goes.

    My problem is that I've gone back to gaming more and doing less around the house because I'm exhausted. I'm 32 and I teach full-time at a local community college, while also taking online courses to get my teaching degree re-instated in case Something Happens To My Job. And everything I do, everything around me, is a stressor.

    I am the sole breadwinner, and have been for half a year while my husband tried to get his old (contracted) job back. When that failed, he signed up for courses to get better certifications so he can get a job in a computer industry that never really had a place for someone with a BS in computer science beyond the entry level.

    My dog is getting old. Our cars are getting older. Suddenly everything is more expensive at the same time that we have less money. And on top of that, pressure is mounting at work.

    We've started a new kind of course for my subject, one that requires more energy from me not just because it's new, but by the nature of the way it's set up. Under normal circumstances, I'd be 1000% thrilled with this new challenge, but now I actually dread going to work simply because I don't have the energy for this right now. Worse: our campus has started firing teachers at an unusually-high rate. Even though I've been told I'm one of the best teachers we have in my subject, I'm constantly terrified that I'm going to get the axe. We can't live off one person's unemployment income. And I've reached the point that I'm actually TOO stressed to call my therapist and make an appointment. I haven't been in about 7 or 8 months.

    So the only ways my ADHD brain has to cope with all this shit going on at once, are to either eat Way Too Much sugar, engage in dangerous amounts of Retail Therapy with the money we don't have, or to spend more time in the low-stakes world of video games. After all, if you screw up in a video game, your life isn't affected. You can just replay the level and try again. If you die 20 times in a row, it doesn't affect your real-world health, or wealth, or ruin your marriage. And when everything else–even the crafts I used to love and spend several hours a week on–piles on the stress, games are my refuge. I can't keep living like this, but I don't know what to do when it's hard enough to muster the energy just to soldier on. I've talked to my husband, and he helps out around the house, but he can't just make jobs appear for himself out of thin air. He can't take the pressure off at my job. He can't stop our cars from wearing out, or the dog from aging. And it feels like THOSE are the kinds of miracles that would need to happen for me to get out of this hole.

    I'm not expecting any of y'all to have a solution for me; I guess I just needed to vent, to get this off my chest.

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