How To Deal With Social Anxiety | 5 Tips To Overcome Anxiety



is it just me or do you get nervous and a little bit self-conscious anytime you walk into a room of people you don't know I know it's not just me because it happens to all of us and butterflies and anxiety are totally normal anytime you've got to stand up and give a presentation or a speech in front of a group of people but social anxiety or having a phobia about going out interacting and meeting new people this is something totally different this goes past just butterflies and feeling a little bit self-conscious this is an absolute fear of embarrassing yourself or being judged harshly by others this fear anxiety social anxiety is so strong that it actually prevents you from going places and doing things because you know how uncomfortable you're going to be when you get there it's social anxiety and the social anxiety is absolutely limiting your happiness and your ability to go out and socialize you're missing out on great times and good people so like I mentioned social anxiety is this fear this unravel fear that you are going to embarrass yourself or you are going to be scrutinized so intensely that it's unbearable alright and you know in your rational mind you know that people really aren't being as harsh as you think they or feel that they are about you but you can't help it common social anxiety triggers are things like meeting new people being the center of attention making small talk public speaking being called out in class but it can also be triggered by things like eating in public going out on a date or even using a public restroom nobody likes using a public restroom does this mean you have social anxiety alright and getting nervous when you get up in front of an audience or you go to a party and you're around people you don't know does this mean that you have social anxiety no all right social anxiety is much more intense like we talked about nervousness and being a little uneasy in new situations perfectly normal but if this anxiety is preventing you from doing things then there's something that needs to be done about some warning signs that you may be experiencing some degree of social anxiety because here's the thing they're varying degrees some people have mildly other people have it pretty substantially but if you stress out and are anxious about doing everyday things you may have a little bit of social anxiety if you worry intensely for days weeks months leading up to a specific event then you may experience some social anxiety if you feel like you are constantly being judged or you worry that other people are picking you apart all the time you may be experiencing some social anxiety there are some behavioural symptoms as well like when you get invited to someplace to use room just decide now I'm not going to go even though you got nothing else to do or do you feel compelled or the need to bring a friend with you or you the type of person that stands in the background off tries not to talk or say anything just don't mind me I'm just here or do you drink prior to going if you said yes to any one of those things or you do it consistently and chances are you do have a degree of social anxiety so now let's talk about how to get it in check tip number one is challenge your own negative thoughts because that's one of the things when people have an experience social anxiety they got all these negative thoughts going on in their head right you're not going to be good enough you're going to screw this up you might not be liked challenged it don't just accept it alright well why don't people like me can't come up with anything or maybe I'll say something stupid well what will you say or maybe I won't have anything to say and people are gonna think I'm boring well why won't you have anything to say thank you something before challenge the negative thoughts don't just let them just play cause when they go unchecked jett things get out of hand and you start to believe them alright Challenge them alright they are negative ideas they are negative thoughts but you don't have to let them rule you tip number two is learn to control your breathing in through the nose out through the mouth alright because when we get nervous it's short little breaths and these short little breaths alright they cause us to be more anxious than we actually may be or need all right by practicing learning and adopting some relaxation techniques or some deep breathing exercises and just chill slow your row just center yourself calm down all right you're going or see yourself relaxing you're going to feel a bit better it's going to be easier that's it number three is face your fear alright if you are sit if you're the person that is never going out because you're scared to actually interact meet people talk to people alright if you just are avoiding these situations you got to be willing to be uncomfortable all right you've got to go know just right now you are going to be uncomfortable it's going to be awkward you're going to feel like running away but you've got to face the fear if you never do you're never going to get better you're going to go all right you're going to go you're going to hang out you're going to talk to somebody all right maybe you only stay for ten minutes twenty minutes but you win that's the big thing next time you go a little longer you've got to face your fear what you're going to learn over time is that you can do it then nothing bad is going to happen that people aren't looking and whispering and talking about you it's okay face your fear and if that doesn't work all right then you may want to try number four which is talk to a therapist go seek professional help because it's out there a lot of times we as individuals have a very tough time basically working things out when it has to do with us we can give great advice to other people right but when it comes to actively and actively actively and actively twice actively helping ourselves or being able to work the things out in our brain that we need to sometimes we just can't do it and so a great idea is to actually go and seek counseling therapists are a wonderful tool all right they are there they're unbiased they're going to and their only job is to help you get over the issues that you're having with going out and being social and when all that fails there's always number five which is medication there are some great medications out there to help you take the edge off get you situated right you don't need to feel like this you're not meant to feel like this you are beautiful special and you deserve to have wonderful interpersonal relationships you you should be enjoying your life going out seeing things doing things but if your social anxiety is getting the best of you and causing you to have more fear than fun gentlemen it's time to take action I know you can do it it's tough but if you take the first step I'm sure you're going to be impressed with the way that you respond

27 comments

  1. Anxiety fucking sucks!! While everyone’s getting ready for prom tonight , I’m sitting in my house trying to be supportive. As much as I want to go and buy the dress, do the makeup, get my hair done, my anxiety and depression tell me I don’t want to go. It makes me feel anxious for the people going to prom, like how are they not nervous!?!

  2. At school im fairly quiet and dont talk to too many people. If im at home or in public im talkative and goofy. Idk what it is about school. I just cant make friends.

  3. I’m going out on Saturday with new people and I’m soo anxious I never socialise ever I never go out and I always sit at home doing nothing by myself . Wish my luck I’m so nervous 🤮😕💜 I will update the next day

  4. Im an introvert, im very shy and quiet bcoz of that i dont make friends in highshool. Im a loner, I always feel out of place at school they think im a weirdo, im such a pushover they always bully me making fun of me, embarrassing me infront of the whole class. I lost all my confidence to talk to anybody. I just wanna die already but i cant even hurt myself.. Pls giv me advice , im going college this year.. Pls help

  5. I always think if someone walks by, walking in the front of me or i see someone sit on a bench that i have to walk by. That they gonna attack me or somethin. Or interact with me. Am i dumb or wtf do u have that please let me know

  6. I worry so much about what others think about me and it's time to stop. I've been lied on gossiped about scrutinized teased and spoken unkindly words about and it sucks. God is my vindicator and he knows my heart. I will move forward with confidence now matter what. I must believe in myself

  7. Things no one knows about me:
    I’m not actually that introverted, I like going out and having fun with my friends I’m just way to scared to
    I actually don’t mind sport and I like to join in but I act like I absolutely hate it and act terrible at it so I won’t be pressured to make mistakes and so I don’t get any attention and I don’t want to try bc I have this weird thought that people are going to think on it and judge me for going from terrible to bad but actually joining in or people cheering me on
    I absolutely love acting I’m just way to scared to in front of anyone
    I’m to scared of go anywhere without a friend even with a friend I’m still scared, I can’t even go across the school library and borrow a book even in the mornings

  8. At this point Having social anxiety actually makes me want to face the fear. Only reason I’m going to college and afterwards I’m moving to a place near the beach so I can constantly try getting out of my comfort zone

  9. I think it's time i should go see a therapist. This has been eaten me since my teen years and I'm only 24

  10. I have social anxiety not to extreme but I have work experience and I was meant to go with my friend but she couldn’t and now I have to go to a place I don’t know and people i don’t know on my own and I’m REALLY anxious and I want to quit I keep playing over and over in my mind but I’m not allowed to quit and I need help my family just say stop being lazy (because I don’t go out a lot) and it’s all in your head and I need advice.

  11. I have this social anxiety before, but right now I'm working on it. I'll just keep in mind that we're all going to die anyway so why let these fears and insecurities prevent me from doing things that I wanna do?

  12. went to a party gathering today aunt called to sit n talk around straight up 5 people looking at you i wanted to die right there

  13. I have exteme social anxiety to the point i want to die. I can't go apply for a job i cant go to school everyday. I hate how i am.

  14. Ppl dont. Let ppl put u down, why would u give them the power to do that to you, is it enjoyable ? It gets better ! If you have dreams why would you sabotage ur hapiness because of the guy that walks by in the cafeteria that actually doesnt give a fuck at all about you

  15. I think I have social anxiety, I keep telling myself I don’t, but I get anxious around my own family, I hate this feeling

  16. well idk do i have social anxiety most of the time the peoplr i know for a long time i can talk comfortably but with people idk or known but not to long im afraid of talking to them im afarid of being judge ,especially boys girls too but mostly boys….

  17. the fear is unreal sometimes. Its quite challenging to keep a conversation but also be focusing on what everyone else is saying aswell.

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