People Share What They Talk About With Their Therapist | Soul Stories, Mental Health

– Finding a therapist for me was a bit of a daunting experience at first because if I already was having
a hard time reaching out to my family and friends,
I’m like what am I gonna do with this complete
stranger who I don’t know. – There was hesitation because I felt like what can they do really to help me? You know, I feel like the
general feeling out there is that just talking to
someone isn’t gonna help you but unless you do it, you
really don’t understand how much it helps you
but it’s so much deeper than just talking out what
you’ve been going through. – I actually took a few tries
of meeting with somebody, talking to them, kind of
like interviewing therapists and when I first started,
I thought that I had to just go with the first person I met. But it’s kinda the same way in dating. You have to go and if that first person you don’t really resonate with
them and you don’t feel like maybe they’re the right person for you, it’s completely okay to
say to that therapist, hey, I don’t think this is the right fit but thank you for your time. – I went to the psychiatrist
and I took the bipolar test and I was classic. It’s a relief to say okay,
there, this is what it is. And we can deal with it. And it took awhile to get
the right combination, the right cocktail of
meds so that I wasn’t like sleeping all day or, you know, I mean we finally got the
right combination of medication to deal with that so that I
wouldn’t have such low lows or high highs, so that
it’d be more even keel. – I’ll say five months into
it, I started seeing results. I start believing in myself again. I started learning that I was okay, that I wasn’t gonna die. We have to take the first step
which is crossing the door. It took me five weeks to
get my first appointment. I have a friend who just is feeling weird, I brought him personally,
I brought him to that place to get his appointment. I have a chance, I did in
my own because I always see on the internet, on social media, if you feel something, get help. Call this number. That’s what I did. – I remember telling her it
felt like I was in a lull and complaining about being in a lull and she just looked at me
and she was like, okay, so be in the lull. And I was just like ah, why? And she had a way of doing that. I think there were a lot
of breakthroughs of that, of her just being like okay so
just accept what’s happening instead of rejecting it so avidly because that just,
resistance causes it to grow. – I don’t think there is
necessarily always gonna be one treatment that is right. Maybe it is one thing for somebody, but it can kind of evolve over time. Maybe one therapist is
working for you for awhile, maybe you wanna change it up. It’s managing and treating
for a whole lifetime so there are gonna be times for me I know where I need to change my
approach of how I deal with things and maybe sometimes I need
to be talking to somebody a little bit more, maybe
there’s times where I’m okay on my own and I’m just
sufficient with seeing family and friends but I will say for me, therapy did help a lot. – I had stopped going
to therapy for awhile ’cause I felt better for a long time and then I had another
big episode, a big change in my life and it gets worse
if you leave it untreated, so it just kept getting worse and worse and then I was like I need medication. I need outside help besides just going and talking to someone so
I sought medication out. That really helped me a lot. – I’d say I still work
with anxiety and depression but I don’t see them as a thing, like emblazoned across my chest. I see them as things that
I experience and feel and get to work with and
mitigate and take care of just like I would a cold. I think that any time that
you’re going somewhere where you’re gonna have
your own story reflected back to you and be forced
into self-awareness, that’s not a bad thing. Therapy can look like different things. If therapy for you is somatic therapy or if it’s like, there’s different ways of going through therapy
but I think everyone would benefit from
examining their own story. And ideally that’s what therapy is. – Going back into your past
or where trauma happened is vital because it really explains a lot. When you get that awareness, it changes, you see more options ahead of you. Whereas before, you’re just
seeing this one option. – Go get help. We live in a country with help. And it just takes, might take a few weeks but once you’re in and
you’re patient with yourself and patient with your therapist, you’re on your way to good.

50 comments

  1. If I were going to theraphy, think i would be talking about my life and things going on in it!

  2. Stop stigmatising therapy.

    Stop putting down ANYTHING that helps people and let them live their life.

  3. years ago, I was on an anti-depressent..and nothing since 2003.. I had some rough times in Dec and January. My brother passed away in December, and mother exactly a month later. I have a lot of changes going on(I don't deal well with changes) I needed help. Anxiety attacks were happening all the time. I had been suicidal in the past..so the clinic hooked me up with a therapist. I'm on an anti-depressent again..Doing lots better.

  4. I feel like therapy should almost be mandatory to everyone. It is truly incredible how much it helps. I have been very fortunate to have a perfect life when I was a child (and thankfully still do), but my mom insisted I went to see a therapist – which I didn't understand or like at first. But over time I really liked it. And today looking back I see how much it helped me. We don't have to be going through something big in order to need therapy. People often think that you need to be depressed or "crazy" to need therapy, but you actually don't. It helps in your everyday life.
    One thing I remember was to be very frustrated that my mom was so controlling over me; i couldn't choose my clothes, my hair style, my extracurricular activities. My mom chose everything. And at the time I don't think I saw that as a problem (I wouldn't say "mom i want to choose more"), but by talking to my therapist she was able to grasp that I wanted more control over my life and these decisions. She then talked to my mom and my mom understood that I needed that. I was able to drop some classes I didn't like and focus more on what I truly liked.
    I think this had a huge impact on my life as an adult. I know now that my life is in my control, that I have a choice in my life, that I shouldn't just follow someone else's footsteps just because it worked for them. I can create my own path.
    Fantastic video. This is the path to make mental health less obscure and more accessible.

  5. I'm seeing a therapist for I think the fourth time in my life and I can't recommend it enough. I don't think I would be where I am now in my life without therapy.

  6. I may need to see one.
    But they have to have their life together before i spill my whole LIFE. Past and now.😊✌

  7. Seeking help and going to a therapist requires a huge awareness of yourself, it takes courage because it means you're admitting to yourself that you're dealing with stuff in your head, that nobody can see and that messes you up. It's an incredible step forward, recovery will not be linear anyway, but starting therapy shows that you're strong and you acknowledge you have a problem and you're not less important and valid because you have a problem.

  8. I thank God for my therapist! I started seeing her weekly to talk through my feelings of anxiety and depression last August. In January, I eased up to once every two weeks and as of this week, we both felt comfortable backing off to once a month. So glad I found a therapist (on my third try, FYI) that was a good for me, shared my beliefs, and was able to really guide me out of that time in my life.

  9. I domt like asking people for help. I feel like i can tame my own demons by myself but i think it'll just take time. But its hard being a doomer.

  10. I just rant to my therapist about my feelings and how most times it doesn’t make sense and she has helped me realize why or ways to try to see why i feel the way i do and it has even made me have epiphanys during me ranting. She’s awesome and super nice, funny, fun, kind, amazing listener. Too bad healthcare isnt free so i have few sessions with her with her bosses don’t like cos shes not charging me and im not taking meds anymore :/

  11. It really sucks because the insurance I have doesn’t cover most therapists and the 3 that I have gone to did not help me whatsoever and there are year long waiting lists for other therapists in my price range. It’s just not easy to get decent therapy.

  12. I understand there are people – not just two or three – who are absolutely in need of medication. I see that. However, I wish there was less of an automatic response to put someone on meds and, instead, more education about all the possible ways without it. You have to want to learn how to walk without crutches one day. Again, I'm just addressing the imbalance in media representation that I'm noticing, where one way is promoted constantly and the other almost as an exception, or only in "lesser" cases. Anti-depressants are so heavily over-described these days. This cannot be helping the mental health issues present-day societies are facing. Too often it's used to fix symptoms, not root causes and it's the normalisation of that imbalance which I find bothering.

  13. Talking with a stranger escpecially a trained stranger can be so much easier than friends and family. I see a therapist specific for dealing with mental health + chronic illness(s) and it is so amazing to have someone to talk to that can help and listen and understand. Makes a HUGE difference

  14. I've had several therapists. The first one was a free psychiatrist covered by medicare here in Australia & by the time I saw him let's just say too much time had passed & I'd needed one immediately. Access is a real problem for low income earners. He was pretty crap because he was free & busy/in high demand as you might expect. He could only fit me in once every six weeks so he just gave me meds, but they did help. I was also lucky to get onto a programme to access 10 free therapy sessions so I saw her & she got me through the crisis. Eventually I grew out of her & needed more complex help & found a psychologist who bulk billed a portion & I paid a gap. She was too personally involved & I stopped seeing her. I found someone who specialised in my diagnosis & bulk billed 10 sessions so I paid the gap. He was helpful but refused to talk about any past events or issues. Only now. That didn't work for me after my first ten sessions so the next year I moved to another therapist in his office who didn't have his strict rules but also specialised in my diagnosis. Unfortunately when I told her what my needs were on my first session she failed to tell me that what I needed was trauma therapy & kept fobbing me off when I asked when we'd get to the bits where we talked about those issues. On my last session with her I asked why we didn't get to it & she said "oh you need a trauma therapist" which made me mad obviously. So now finally I have a traums therapist & my whole life has changed! I'm going on about all this because my trauma therapist said that if I hadn't been through all those other therapists I wouldn't be ready for the work with her, so I shouldn't be mad. But interviewing therapists, & doing work with several of them is a good thing. I got a lot out of all the work I did with all but the first psychiatrist. I think specifically stating what you're feeling & what you think you need & asking them what they think you need is a good conversation to have on the first day though. Then go home & think about whether you agree. But give them three sessions to see how they actually work. One or two sessions isn't enough.

  15. I genuinely think this is one of the most beautiful youtube channels. I think it's some of the most amazing conversations and productions period.

  16. I first went to a therapist at 14. I absolutely hated the lady. I was struggling with self harm and she was adamant that I showed them to her. And that all her other kids had shown her. I was so anxious about seeing her that I shook my leg a lot. She claimed that I was either on drugs or I had adhd. She said that I had to tell my dad everything that was going on. I said no and I stuck to it. She didn't care. I left the office crying and she told him anyways. I ran outside sobbing and a lady walking by with her daughter stopped and sat down on the bench with me. Her daughter asked why I was crying and she said that it didn't matter. She asked if she could hug me and that was so necessary for me at the time. She told me that it would get better and walked away. My parents came outside and that was the last time I went to therapy and we never talked about it ever again. That was about 14 years ago and I think about her regularly. I know I'll never be able to let her know how much that hug meant to me. I'm 28 and I have been getting treatment for over 2 years now. Life is definitely better now because I am only responsible to myself.

  17. Be careful of there quick " meds" fix . A conversation with a good friend mom or dad can be just as helpful and stop staring at screens

  18. I was so lucky to find the right therapist straight away. He's helped me through different stages of life and he's helping me right now as I try to figure myself out, take back control and lead the best life I can. I'm intellectually gifted and not one adult in my childhood has stepped in to help. No one had ever told me what I was until I met him. They only took advantage of my skills. I obviously grew up to be a very fearful and angry teen and adult, but he's helping me find forgiveness and peace of mind, and most importantly awaken the potential that I had to push back in order to survive almost a decade of unjustified bullying. It's hard, and it's not a quick process, but I know it will last a lifetime. I wish I had found him sooner but I was a child and it was not my call to make. At least I have him now and I'm changing now and becoming the person my brain is capable of making me. Therapists are game changers. Meeting one or two can only answer your questions. I hope you find the help you need!

  19. The first girl is me omg!!! Doesnt help having it shoved down your throat as a kid too though sooo idk……..

  20. Experiencing how transformative and empowering going to therapy for me was, I was inspired to become an art therapist to be able to give that same gift back to other people. Therapy changed my life for the better.

  21. I tried several therapists over several years and none of them helped me. The common theme was that they were dismissive of my feelings and saw my issues as not valid problems. I eventually formed the view that therapists are sort of like drug dealers ( profiting off other peoples pain) or politicians (pushing their own agenda).
    Eventually I made a friend in a support group that actually listened to me and gave me empathy. Once my pain was acknowledged and not sneered at I was able to become proactive and move forward with positive steps. Once I learned the language and developed the strength to expect a therapist to treat me with basic respect I found one that put their energy into me rather than their own agenda. It took a long time but I'm glad I found the right one and I am making progress.

  22. Seeing a therapist can be tough. 2 years ago I was at the lowest point in my life and I found this therapist and within the first session I knew I wanted to work with her. I’ve been working with her for 2 years and she has saved my life. I never thought I’d be better and because of her and my psychiatrist I am.

  23. Marijuana and Nature. That’s right- smoke a bone, lakeside, under the trees, notebook and pencil handy. And never forget to look up; the sky is so amazing.

    That’s the perfect medication concoction. Try it. Feel it all, write it all, admire it all….soak it all in.

  24. single parents:
    I’m a Mum with 2 sons & one has special needs.
    I was in survival mode for years & my sons needs came first. Money went to his therapy,
    I couldn’t justify spending $100 talking to someone for an hr.
    It was an infuriating impossibility laughably useless.
    Unless you’re going to come
    Home cook and help someone with homework.
    I wanted to throat punch anyone who told me to “put the oxygen mask on first”
    I waited until my mental health became crisis.
    Single parents, parents with special needs kids can live in fight or flight for years and not realize it until they crash.
    I’m in therapy, it’s fantastic… I wish I spent 100 an hr sooner.
    I feel like I have a co pilot and can ask about my children’s mental health and make sound & succinct decisions.
    You are worth it.
    Call and ask for sliding scale, call for subsidy’s.
    No rescue boat is coming… advocate for yourself.
    You won’t regret it .

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