The Biblical Strategy to Overcome Porn Addiction



hey everyone it's Luke Gill Kherson from covenant eyes I wanted to share with you something really simple that's helped a lot of people to address a very sensitive problem it could be an uncomfortable topic to talk about but it needs to be talked about if we're going to make any changes in our lives and in the church it's the problem of pornography having worked at covenant eyes for about eight years now I've lost count of the number of comments that I've received from readers with the question about how to quit looking at porn to some people it might seem like a really easy solution if you don't want to look at it just stop looking at it this reminds me of the advice given by comedian Bob Newhart in his famous sketch on MADtv where a woman walks into his counseling office confessing to some terrifying and uncontrollable phobias and he says I'm going to say two words to you right now and I want you to listen them very very carefully then I want you to take them out of the office and incorporate them into your life stop it look it up on youtube if you haven't seen it it's really funny the fact is telling people just to stop it when it comes to behavioral addictions or what's sometimes called a process addiction doesn't really work because the brain's capacity for self-control has already been compromised it takes new habits and new thinking to change our behavior it takes a new heart recently I got an email from a Christian journalist asking me one question he says if you had one piece of advice for someone who wanted to quit looking at porn what would it be after thinking for a moment I told them the same thing I'm going to tell you in this video it's it's just one verse from the Bible it serves as a hook for all the strategies you need to overcome pornography addiction as a bonus the verse is also really easy to remember where it is it's from the Apostle Paul's very last letter 2nd Timothy 2:22 here's what it says so flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness faith love and peace along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart this one verse contains three easy to remember strategies run from 1 2 and run with run from run to run with all the basic biblical strat Gee's needed to make radical change in our lives fits into one or more of these categories run from means to do what the apostle paul when he says flee youthful passions this means to run from every passion in us every even passions for good things that have become OverDrive's or ungodly demands desires that are that we were not even willing to submit to Christ because they're so strong fleeing involves a whole host of strategies it means physically fleeing finding those physical triggers for temptations and cutting those things out of our lives it means visually fleeing moving our eyes away from images that are causing lust it means mentally fleeing bouncing our thoughts away from lustful fantasies in general the quicker we learn to physically visually and mentally flee the quicker we cut the temptation off of the root so it doesn't get a foothold this means we need to spend real time and attention thinking about the common triggers we have both external in our environment and internally in our emotions and our passions and then coming up with very clear strategies or off-ramps that we're going to take in the moments before a trigger turns into a compulsive drive the next strategy is run – this is where Paul writes and pursue righteousness faith love and peace you see in the end if we stop at run from strategies our success is going to be limited we don't just need more do better try harder strategies will either find it too hard and we'll just give up or we'll find some measure of success but we'll be so joyless in the process that quitting porn feels about as empty is using porn in the end we need to replace porn with godly joys and godly pursuits in short what this means is being captured by a better vision of the man or woman that God is making you to be it means experiencing good and wholesome pleasures given by God it means cultivating a heart of gratitude for the things that God has given it means repenting of all of our past 70 and constant need for amusement and experiencing the joy of meaningful work and meaningful service it means experiencing and pursuing real intimacy with other people genuine friendship and were married romantic intimacy with our spouse above all it means delighting in the giver of these good gifts knowing that Christ in faith is greater than all the pleasures of sin the last strategy is run with this is where Paul writes along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart those who call on the Lord is another way of talking about true Christians this is so key we can't miss this if we run from temptations and we run to God we cannot forget to involve others in the process as well this is not something that God considers optional or something that it's only needed for those who need extra help the New Testament is filled with many one another commands statements about what life is meant to be like in the church the community of the church is one of God's normal and primary means to help us be God word in our thoughts in our feelings and our actions this means praying together and for each other this means confessing our sins to each other this means really meeting together and talking to be encouraged this means also talking about the stuff that really matters not just you know surface sins but really sitting across from one another and reminding each other of the people God is making us to be reminding each other to rely on Christ and not just our feeble efforts to perform now at the beginning of this video I said this is my one piece of advice but I know that's kind of a big piece of advice I've been teaching on these topics for years and one of the biggest objections I get is that it seems like once we really start to look into these things the Bible says an awful lot about these subjects it just seems like it's so much to apply in response I would say that we just need to keep in mind that we need to spend a long time unpacking these biblical strategies if you really struggle with pornography it's important that you slowly unpack these truths and apply these ideas one at a time chances are you've been it took years for you to build up your pornography habit so it's going to take a long time to untangle the wires in your mind and really set your thinking in proper order old habits die hard so we need to dedicate the time to this and really commit this to serious prayer and attention recently I released a program to do just this it's pretty simple it's just a series of emails that go out once a day over 40 days slowly unpacking these concepts one at a time so far thousands of people have gone through this and were really encouraged with the feedback we've heard about 92% of the latest round of participants said that it was really helpful to them in overcoming pornography temptations and it just takes these three strategies and just sort of stretches them out over smaller steps over the space of 40 days well I'm really excited that we are about to release this same content as an app for your mobile device the app is called overcome porn it's got all the same helpful content that I presented in my email program just deliver to you on your smartphone I'll be talking more about this in upcoming videos so stay tuned but in the meantime I'd really like to hear from you leave a comment somewhere below this video and let me know where have you seen just one of these strategies bear fruit in your life one of you really run from temptation in a way that really worked when if you really run to God and it's good gifts in a way that really made sin lose its luster when if you experience genuine fellowship and friendship running with others in a way that motivated you to want to follow Christ even when you found it difficult to do so I'd love to hear from you just scroll down below this video and tell me how you see these strategies helping you thank you for watching you

28 comments

  1. I have a weird case. I was freed 9 months from porn but I ended up turning back. It was a dark period of my life and I used it as a vice. Though it's reduced, I'm starting to go back to the vomit. Please help 😪

  2. the majority of people we work with are not christian. i maintain my work ethos of no ethnic or religious bias

  3. this should be interesting. god botherers are a fucking annoying nuisance at the best of times many folk are not ashamed of watching porn

  4. I was a smoker for many years and I was told I couldn't do it on my own I would go crazy well I haven't smoked a cigarette in a year and I have no desire to smoke them because I just got sick of it was pornography it's going to be the same thing the main reason I'm going to quit I don't want to end up in hell I think that's a good enough reason to quit voice text

  5. I have actually applied all this stuff that you taught me in this video. thank you so much for doing this! but I have I've already got a partner and I'm I continually try to quote scripture run as much as I possibly can or or put the device by the front door so that I'm not tempted by it and then walk away and then go sit down because oftentimes it don't feel like getting up again once I sit down. for the most part it works! Hallelujah!

  6. I'm 39. I've been with my wife for 18 years and at this point she is not really interested in sex. The problem is that my desire has increased. A lot of times there's an argument before we do have sex. I watch porn but nowadays I'm getting disgusted by it , especially afterward, and the fact that I can't peacefully lay with my wife. She likes to have the kids in the room to keep me away. I need advice

  7. WOW!! Where to begin.first of all I don't like to go back in the past because it was really ugly.thanks alot for this video brother!!!

  8. The weapons we use are not carnal but mighty through God. Anything outside of faith will not free you. You must call on the name of the Lord when any temptation comes. Scream on his name. Be desperate for him. And start to move on and find something else to do. Open up the bible and force yourself into it. DO SOMETHING! AND CALL ON HIM!

  9. How do you convince a husband to quit looking when he says it’s fine because he’s “just looking and not touching”. He was told how much pain it is causing me, he cannot keep erection when he’s with me and tries to make me do things that he’s seen and gets frustrated when I won’t. I told him when he wants me to do those things he makes me feel like a prostitute and it didn’t phase him at all. According to him I have the problem because it bothers me and he doesn’t have a problem.

  10. I found myself watching porn (surprisingly) on instagram. Most people would think that it can’t be found there, but I promise you it’s everywhere. Anyway, I finally asked God to give me the courage to delete Instagram, I didn’t want to at the time because I wouldn’t have been able to see what my best friends were up to. He gave me the courage to do so and flee from the temptations. I felt a giant weight remove from me, and while I’ve still found myself tempted and led back to it through other ways, I’ve always begged God to direct my feelings away from it and back to him. It’s been hard, sometimes I find myself lusting after girls I know that I could never ever have in my life, but God has and will keep directing my focus on him. He always will! I hope this enlightens someone as much as it does to me. I had a real Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde story playing out in my life, great book by the way, but yeah I hope someone will be brought closer to Christ through my story

  11. I have zero will power over my addiction. I have resided myself to the fact that I might burn in hell for my behavior. I wish I were never born. I have failed this thing called life. God gave me too much freedom and this is why I will spend eternity in a lake of fire. How sad that I can’t stop this addiction? Tired of fooling myself…

  12. What you do is read the bible when you get the urge to do anything against God it works. God delivered me from alcohol in 1 day I have no desires for alcohol. God even let me taste it to see it did not affect me any longer it has been over 20 years now. I lost weight when reading the bible any time I felt the urge to eat unhealthily I read the bible Praise, Jesus, I lost over 48lbs in a few months that was 3 years ago and it has not returned.

    At first, it hurts because the demons are fighting you to not leave your body. It is like an addict who is trying to quit the demons do not want to leave the vessel they use our vessels to sin they love sin and hate us. Eventually, the pain goes away when the word of God overcomes the darkness in the body. It is like a relationship when you break up it hurts because of the demons that came from the emotional attachment to that person. Once you read the bible often the pain goes away so go through the pain it hurts but eventually goes away.

    When you read God's word it works even listen to the word of God while you sleep it heals everything. I started adding videos with bible verses and listen to my videos as well when I look at them I know the Holy Spirit created those videos because I do not remember writing and putting those words. God words works for anything and everything. Speak His word over every situation and it chases the devil away the audio bible verses chases the demons away and you feel like new.

  13. I struggle with this too… I get so frustrated with myself for giving in and need to start taking an offensive approach to sexual sin. Rather than just trying to ignore the thoughts, I'm now going to try to pray it away, boasting in my weakness to God so that He may give me the grace to overcome it. I'll also stop using my phone and turn off the wifi at 10 pm and use the remaining time I'm up to read or journal. I AM NO LONGER A SLAVE TO SIN BUT FREE IN CHRIST!!!

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