What a therapist really thinks ABOUT YOU! | Kati Morton

– There seems to be so much mysticism around therapists and therapy in general. Many people feeling like
therapists themselves are really elusive, and we
don’t really know what they do. They’re almost like the wizard of Oz hiding behind a curtain, pulling levers, making things happen, seems
so secret and so magical. But the truth about therapists,
obviously, I am one, we’re just regular people just like you. We have good days, we have bad days. Some of us are good at our
jobs, others really suck. Some of us work extremely long hours and see a ton of patients,
others are very specific, and only see a certain type
of struggle in their patients. Either way, today’s video
is all about what we think, and what goes on behind the scenes. You seem to want to know,
so let’s get into it. There are so many new
people on the channel. Welcome, welcome,
welcome to the community. Make sure you’re subscribed, and you have your notifications turned on because I put out videos
every Monday and Thursday, and I don’t want you to miss out. But let’s just jump into today’s topic. (hip-hop instrumental music) Now, the first question
that I want to address is, what do we do between patients? Many of you have asked me this. Why is it a 50 minute hour
instead of an hour long? What is with that 10 minutes? Why do I pay for an hour,
and I only get 50 minutes? I hear that all the time,
and the truth about it is, A, we don’t run like trains,
we’re not always on schedule. People don’t show up on time,
we can’t just, you know, let’s say our appointment’s at 1:00, at 1:50 I can’t be like, “Okay, well, “that’s it, time to get out.” That’s kind of rude, it’s really hard, sometimes we’re wrapping things up. Sometimes we’re talking about homework. Sometimes we’re trying
to gather ourselves, so that we can leave without crying. In therapy, it doesn’t just run on this strict schedule, so
those 10 minutes gives us a little buffer to wrap
things up, take payment, write the notes that we need to write. Maybe eat, maybe pee because, you know, we’re human, fill up our
water, get more coffee. I might also have to make
a call to your psychiatrist or other treatment team
members to keep them up to date on what’s going on
with you. (breathes deeply) There’s a lot to do in that
10 minutes, and frankly, to be quite honest, I
never get it all done. I’m always, like, ending sessions, let’s say I’m finishing all
of my clients by like 6:00 PM. There’s always at least an hour afterwards we’re I’m finishing up my notes, making sure superbills are
going out, making sure calls are getting made, emails
returned, et cetera. Because I don’t have an office manager, most therapists don’t, it’s just me. So when I’m all done I have to catch up on all those things that didn’t get done in those 10 minutes because trust me they go by like pew. (snaps fingers) The second, and most asked question is, what do therapists really
think during session? And it kind of makes me laugh
because I don’t even know if even as a therapist
I know what my therapist is thinking because
everyone’s gonna be different. But I’ll give you kind of a rough idea of what’s going through our
head session after session. As I’m sure you’ve realized,
or I hope now you’ll realize, we as therapists because
we’re outside of a situation, and we’re not emotionally involved in it, we realize so many things
way before our patients do. You know that shitty
relationship you’re in that you just can’t figure
out why it doesn’t work? We probably already know. We’ve realized it, we also hate that relationship, wish
you’d get out of it, and try to help you find your way there. We may also recognize the “hey, the way “that you’re responding
seems a lot like your mom, “and that’s tied into the fact
that your dad was this way, “and then your uncle did this.” We see a lot of that way before you do. And what that really means is, and this is why I actually
love being a therapist, is instead of getting frustrated, because a bad therapist
would get frustrated, and they would try to push
you to that objective, or to that realization more
quickly than you’re ready. But a good therapist, and what I hope I am is a good therapist, is we’re
kind of patient with it. And I see it kind of like I’m a detective. Or, and this sounds really weird to say it this way, but
maybe I’m like the criminal, and I’m leaving clues
behind so that you can find all the evidence you
need to guide you back to what I already know,
and what I’ve figured out. And, of course, you’re gonna
do that at your own time. So it’s kind of up to me to make sure that I’m leaving all the proper
evidence to get you there. But, yeah, we realize a lot
of stuff way ahead of time, and we’re just kind of
waiting for you to catch up. We also notice everything. Do you make eye contact, do you? Do you struggle to make eye contact? Do you fidget a lot, do you pick at your nails, do you
flap your foot around? Do you like to lay on the couch 6and put your hand over your face. Do you like to sit on the
very edge of your seat. I used to have this client
that I can almost guarantee that in the two years I saw her, her back never touched
the back of my couch. She had an anxiety disorder,
so it was very obvious. But we have to notice all of that. We have to notice all the fidgets, all the things that happen, so that A, I can tell if my diagnosis
is really correct. B, if you struggle with
dissociation I can know when you’re going there,
and when that’s happening. And C, I can also make sure the treatment that you’re getting, let’s say you’re on medication as well, is it working? Are the behavioral techniques that I’m giving you making things better? Are the fidgets, and the urge to move all the time, is that stuff going away? It can really help for
me to pay attention. So really, and I think
Shawn also says this to me a lot, I’d make a great detective. Maybe that’s why I like
all those analogies. But it’s really helpful
for me to pay attention. So know that whether you like it or not your therapist
is noticing everything. Moving on to the third question about what therapists really
do, is what the heck do you write in all of those notes. The truth is, and I’ve talked
about this a little bit in other videos, it’s
not very exciting stuff. The first is diagnosis stuff. What are the symptoms,
what are kind of the things that we’re noticing,
the behavioral things? Are they fidgeting, do they move a lot? Do they struggle to make eye contact, did they dissociate, what is it? All of that has to be documented. That’s usually done in our intake form, where we’re noting what brought you in, what symptoms you’re
feeling, and all of that. But throughout our
notes, our progress notes with you each and every session,
there will be things noted in there about your diagnosis to, honestly, make sure it’s correct. The next thing that goes in
our notes is logistical stuff. Medication, when was your last appointment with your psychiatrist? What medications are you on, how much, how often, are you liking it? Et cetera. The next is, you know, when
did you see your doctor last? Did we get the bloodwork from that? Did everything look really good? Are we following up, did
we make calls to them? What about your weight? I see a lot of eating disorder patients, so I have to weigh them regularly. I check in with their dietician,
and we see if the weight is the same, because
people try to be sneaky, and make themselves weigh more as a way to say they’re getting better
when they’re really not. But we catch you, so all
of that’s really important. I have to take note of that,
so that I can kind of track it through our treatment, and make
sure that all of our goals, and all of the, you know, tools, and tips, and tricks I’m offering for
you are actually helpful and in line with where you’re at. On that same line then,
runs into homework. What are some of the things
that we’re working on? Have they been completed or
not, were you able to or not? Are you committed to treatment or not? A lot of that goes into our notes because I have to know
what I’m following up on. In between sessions, I don’t
even think I mentioned this, is that I read the last, you know, maybe one or two session notes, like all the progress notes I took so that I make sure I
remember where we were at, what we were talking about,
and what homework you had because I need to follow
up on it to make sure that it’s getting done,
and that it’s appropriate. Also, as a CBT and DBT based therapist, I have a lot of treatment plans going on, so in there are those treatment plans. And I like to think of them as living, breathing documents, meaning
they change all the time. So I may have a sheet
on one side of my file. I always have those, you
know, files that open. Pew. And on this side would
be a treatment plan, and I just mark on it. As of the date we’re doing this instead. Done with that, check in that
box, and I’m working along. So I have to keep up with where we’re at and working towards the goals
that you and I have discussed to make sure that you’re
really getting out of therapy what you need to get out of it. Overall, notes are extremely dry. They’re not written like a story, you can’t follow along and
feel like you know somebody. It’s more something that
we do legally and ethically to make sure that you’re
getting the proper care, and that we’re doing all the
things we’re supposed to do. I don’t recommend, as you remember I’ve said this before, I
don’t recommend getting all of your files and reading them through. It can be really upsetting,
really triggering, and also, it can feel
like a lot is left out, because it is, we can’t
write everything down. It’s mainly just logistical
stuff, like I said, the medication, and what
symptoms are you showing? How are you doing, did
you do your homework? What’s your weight,
are you feeling better, how’s the treatment plan? It’s very, you know,
kind of bullet-pointed. So overall, the main
reason notes even exist, and the main reason we
keep these is for legal and ethical purposes, as well
as to make it easier for you to transition to other treatment programs, or to get referrals to other
professionals as needed. And the fourth question that many of you wanted me to talk about is, do we think about our
patients in between sessions? And I’d be lying if I said no. We’re humans too, we care about you. I didn’t spend all this time in school, and all that time gathering hours, not to mention stressing
over the licensing exam. And then continuing to learn
about what I want to do each and every year, so that I can continue to be licensed, just
for shits and giggles. I did it because I care about people. And when I take a client on, I do it because I feel that I can help them. And I think together we can
work towards their goals. So, overall, of course I’m gonna think about my clients in between sessions because I’m looking for
new ways to help them. I want you to do well, I
want you to feel better. I want you to get better in the quickest and easiest way possible. So if I’m at a different conference, let’s say, learning about something, and something pops up that I
think could help my client, of course, they’re gonna be
in the back of my mind always. If I’m reading a book, and
it’s a tip that’s helpful to me personally, and I think,
oh, I could probably apply that to so-and-so, that might really help. Or even if I’m watching a TV show, and I see someone doing something, And I think, oh, they could do that. So, of course, it’d be a lie to say that we don’t think about
patients in between sessions. But that isn’t to say that
we’re available all the time. And I know that this seems
like a strange transition, but boundaries are so important. If you see a therapist who lets you call, and text them, and
email them all the time, and there’s no boundaries, there’s no talk about what’s appropriate and
what’s not, it’s not okay. Therapists are taught so much in school to be very protective of that boundary to keep you safe and to keep us safe. The reason it keeps you safe is it keeps the relationship therapeutic. If we get too close it
changes the dynamic, and it becomes like a friendship, which isn’t actually as
helpful because as you know, if you’ve been in therapy
for any length of time, there are gonna be times when
the therapist has to push you a little, and give a little
bit of that tough love. And in a friendship it
doesn’t really workout. And on the therapist side
it protects us, boundaries are important because it
keeps us from burning out. Overall, just know that therapists are people too just like you. The only difference is that you come to see us, and we are trained to help you, and guide you through things. So know that everything that
goes on between sessions, and our mind during sessions,
if we’re good at our job, and if we’re invested, should be all about helping you, all about moving you towards your goals in
the best way possible. Just make sure that you
like your therapist, you feel connected to them, and you know that they’re on your side. And that’s truly when the magic and mysticism of therapy can take place. I hope you found this video helpful. This was actually really
fun to think about. It took me a while to put
the video together because it’s just something that I
hadn’t honestly thought of. But let me know in the comments. What are other things you
want me to talk about? Are there other subjects you want to know what a therapist thinks, or
what we do, or how it works? Let me know, and I will
see you next time, bye.

100 comments

  1. I just want to say thank you this helped a lot I just seeing a th stupids yesterday at my school

  2. Hi! How do we know if our therapist is a good one and is helping us?. I have friends that often change because they think they're going nowhere.

  3. For about 2 years I had a bad therapist, and I really didn't realize it until my DR got me into one of the therapists at the office. I just started seeing her fairly recently due to a crash or (MDD) after the passing of my mother. I am someone who is very aware of my emotions, my mental health because I've had to juggle it on my own for a very long time. I've nearly committed suicide a few times in my teens, but for reasons (ranging from not wanting my mom to find me, all the way to being an owner of a sick cat that had daily medical needs which kept my mind busy) I didn't. So my battle has always been me being aware of it, and internalizing it so that it didn't show on the outside. That isn't healthy. My therapist now was able to see that right away. My old therapist wasn't a bad person, just not that great.

  4. Therapist experience 1. 1 of them would have delayed response, would talk about her husband all of the time and told me some private things . Then she would always be on her phone and barely respond to the current subject instead respond to something from 5 minutes ago , one time I walked in she just said oh you really gained a lot of weight , what are u eating ? And any word I said she had to talk about her husband again . But I didn’t say anything and I would just listen and a few times she cried . I didn’t know what to do honestly. 2 . The second one I had she would ask weird or irrelevant questions. She also would get frustrated if I didn’t open up or speak quick enough . 3. Another one miss diagnosed me and my psychiatrists finally said I don’t think this is your disorder and I need to talk to the therapist that we need to reevaluate.

  5. I’ve been very off-put by the lack of professionalism and knowledge that the therapists have in my area. The older I get the more aware I am that not all educated people are the same.

  6. yeah °^° its true about them catching the, let's see if I can't add a bit of weight for my weigh ins. IT DOSE NOT WORK AT ALL. Best just to try and eat and gane the weight you need to and was told to.

  7. I'm currently studying to become a therapist (end goal). I'm a senior at Western Washington University. Statistics is killing me. My question is, how do these painful statistics classes get used later in my practice? : )

  8. My family tried family therapy once and I used every way of saying I was upset with my mom by using body language possible cause I didn't want to say it out loud. This makes me happy to know he saw it.

  9. Ummm…like ur really cute…I think I would come to see u and pretend I have a problem…so I can stare at you…😀

  10. I like my new therapist, she notices me fidgeting but she cares about my health more than past ones, but she also understands some things she can't stop me from doing.

  11. I have had some therapists who were total bitches and assholes to me. Indian women shrinks are the worst. They are fucking bitches.

  12. a therapist i used to see once said to me " that last patient was so angry i am glad he is gone you always make me happy"

  13. Has anyone realized that better help is only for 13+? What about those that are under 13 and have problems like depression, anxiety or other things…

  14. Love how Kati talks about how by being non attached and emotionally invested that a good therapist is patient and there biggest dilemma is about guiding and waiting for you as a client to handle your own reality… this to me is a red flag as most therapists will gladly have you come in for years because its a BIG BUSINESS and you are their INCOME!!!! Avoid therapists that do not have a very clear and transparent approach as to the pace and tempo of their practice, their treatment plans and are incapable of quickly demonstrating there chops in helping you figure out why your seeking treatment and if you do not know why your in therapy and what results you want during the intake then maybe do some research as you do not want to go down a rabbit hole on your dime! As Kati said most therapists are complete shit and have very poor communication or time to really have an integrative and complete approach with you as well as 'team building' they rarely communicate with other therapists as they fear 'splitting' which is a convenient way to say they can't share time or 'cross boundaries' and again leave you befuddled and even more confused. Keep direct and always remember they WORK FOR YOU!!

  15. Awe man I really wish u were my therapist. I have bin diagnosed with Bipolar type 2 and BPD. I moved to a different city and have nobody here. I went to mental health and I ended up with a therapist that made me feel worse rather than helping me to feel better.

  16. the only therapist i had a meeting with when i was 13 scared the crap out of me and i never went back to therapy

  17. I used to always try to figure out what my therapists were thinking. I'd try to catch them using "tricks" to make me do/ say/ think certain things and then do the exact opposite. Or even just trying to be aware of the tricks they were using without actually acting on that, I just wanted to be 100% sure that whatever I did was because I wanted to and not because my therapist wanted to make me do it. Needless to say I quit therapy after a few years because nothing was working. I was so obsessed with trying to find out what they wanted from me that I didn't actually participate in the treatment itself anymore. I quit against medical advice because they wanted to get me enrolled in a program, but I was on the wait list, I quit 2 months before I could start the program, because I had been preparing for it with a therapist and I just didn't even want to do anything she suggested anymore and I flat out refused to listen to her. In hindsight I don't understand why they adviced against me quitting, because I've heard of people having to stop therapy for "non-compliance" for much less, I was a horrible patient during that phase

  18. When I had a therapist, I had a very hard time being honest with her. To the point that I left a lot out, and stop seeing her before new things started, like hallucinating, but I never went back to her.

  19. I’ve had may therapists and I’ve never had a treatment plan. I don’t think a lot of therapists are very good.

  20. Therapists only think they know or observe everything. It’s hubris on there part. They know what their client wants them to know.

  21. You're like the mom I never had, you speak to your audience like you would a child, and as an emotionally stunted child inside, it really is comforting to be talked to that way

  22. My therapist was a very nice gentleman though I know he did not like me. However, he still did his best.

  23. Simply put, there is a political divide happening right now. Both sides are getting completely contradictiry information, causing one side to often be seen as terrible people by the other side even though that is completely not true. A therapist may be neutral, or on one side or the other. If a therapist is on the side that sees the other side as bad people how is this handled? This used to not be a problem. Political differences, for the most part, were not a big deal. But in the last few years this has become a problem. The side that is being dehumanized and lied about have had life long friends and family abandon them in some cases. The other side truly believes that side consists of terrible people. How does this effect the relationship between the therapist and client if the therapist believes those lies (because after all, therapists are human)? How can there be Carl Roger's "unconditional positive regard" if this is the case?

  24. Have been seeing my psychologist for 4 sessions now. Thanks for sharing this vid have been wondering a few of the things you answered! Thank you Katie

  25. I'd be lying if I said I liked my therapist cause I don't like people prying into my life well she doesn't pry but I don't like being asked questions about my feelings it makes me uncomfortable feelings are uncomfortable that's why I don't involve myself with people its just not me

  26. Hi do you take notes during session infront of your client or do u just write when they leave or how do note taking work ?

  27. I made my therapist show me the notes he was taking once and it was way more boring than I was thinking it was gonna be. It was just stuff I said, notes about my family and personal history, my medication and goals. I was relieved and a little bit disappointed. Not juicy at all

  28. I honestly adored my Psychologists. Though she wasn’t entirely a Registered Psychologists and she was in progress of becoming one, she was one of the worlds most helpful people I’ve ever met. At this moment I really miss her and I want to notify her how fine I am doing in person.

    I suffered from extreme anxiety and depression and SHE helped me get through it. I was thinking of suicide and killing myself. Having her in my mind everyday kinda just reminds me that there’s always someone to talk to. After getting through my anxiety and depression she wasn’t notified that I was doing fine via person but by email. At this moment I wish I went to her and thanked her so much for what she has done.

    I haven’t communicated with her in months. I’m just glad I met her. 🙂

    Edit: I believe she was doing an internship in within the Child Psychologist type field (since I went to a child psychologist)

  29. my psychologist can always tell when I haven't been doing well since our last session bc I get really quiet and avoid eye contact.

  30. I just started watching yr videos after starting therapy and had all these questions about my therapist. Thanks for putting this all to rest for me lol.

    Subscibed to yr channel right away. U r bubbly and so friendly. Just how a therapist should be.

  31. I am BPD. I suffer from chronic "suicide migraines" and painful fibromyalgia. I often can't travel because I am so ill. Any suggestions?

  32. i didn't know therapists took those type of notes. my last therapist told me that she only wrote positive things about me. I didn't know that therapist took notes on everything

  33. Hahaa this makes me really conscious of the way I often fidget around my seat and end up in a completely different position than I started. I figured they’d be noting that though 😉

  34. I love your videos and the commitment you put into it to help others, your a star and very pleasing to hear your true facts thanks

  35. I've had two therapists in my life – they both ended up sharing about their own life, and I ended up faking how I felt with one of them because she was hired by the state and her statistics mattered to keep her job. She was very young, and I had compassion for her… I never knew what I was 'working' on, and had to think about subjects to talk about before comming.. It was exhausting!…. And waow I sound really messed up 🙈She said to me I was too 'clever' to be mentally ill…… Ok?… My intelligence has always been above average (a neutral fact, not arrogance), but I have both bipolar II and ADHD, and struggle to find normality and a healthy balance in my existance (I am married and have children)..

    Anyways.
    It's hard to find a good therapist…
    I really dislike that sessions are so short. 2 hours would be more suitable, as you spend the first 45 mins just offloading whatever is going on.. It's not helpful to me, if all you do is talk 🙈(even though I do so much of it! 😅) Also it's very easy to forget what was agreed on and if it involves any type of habbit tracking, it's almost impossible to figure out how to do that and come up with the tools that work, so it can be done.. Just going is a challenge, and going on time… 😅If you then also spend at least the first 5 or 6 sessions just getting to know each other, it feels like money and time wasted.. (My patience is challenged by that)

    I think it would be wise for serious therapists to be really clear with their patients about what to expect, when and what the trajectory for the treatment is… But maybe that's just because my ADHD has taken over my life, and even keeping a comment on YouTube short and to the point, without oversharing is just too much to ask 😂😂😂

    Well…. At least I can laugh about it. It's rediculus..! Somebody put me out of my misery 😅😅😅

  36. I'm going to meet a therapist next month and I'm still not sure.. because the last time which is 3years ago it felt like i was the one who was trying to understand them while i was the one that expected to be understood.. it's always like that
    (´-﹏-`;) i end up being the 'stable' one and being considerate..

  37. My the therapist is awesome I love her (I went for inpatient treatment at the same building and met lots of other staff who I love as well) she's a super cool and an art therapist. But once she had an art group and I was the only kid who showed up so I just sat there with her and three other adults(at one point there were four other adults) and we just crafted. It was great (but a little scary yay anxiety) 💛

  38. Excellent video!! Your so good! ' Clinical detachment' , basically. Thanks for the video! Gonna go to school for this!

  39. Do therapists have therapists?😂(I'm joking I know the answer) I've noticed that I would be a GREAT therapist. I am very emotionally intelligent (honestly surprised i am praising myself but shhhhhhhhh). BUT. I am terrible with my own emotions. I can't tell exactly how someone is feeling just by looking at them, but I don't know how I feel half the time. Like, I think that I am in denial about being transgender, but idk.

  40. Also side not: I see a therapist but I wish too see him more often but my mom wont allow me to. Any suggestions? Journaling doesn't help that much.

  41. I love my therapist. She shares a little bit about her life and some of the struggles she’s going through or has, and it really helps to connect and open up. She acts like a person instead of uptight. Plus she comes to my house so it really helps me feel more comfortable and open up.

  42. Just found your channel! So glad because I can really relate. I decided to go to therapy three and a half months ago and I am sooo thankful I realised on my own that I needed help. I work with an excellent therapist who is the first one I tried with which doesn‘t happen like that all the time. She also makes the sessions 50 minutes and I totally get why. We are not robots and I feel like after 50 minutes you have already accomplished a lot, the 10 minutes in between are absolutely necessary for not only the therapist but also for you. You have the time to resume what you talked about and schedule your next appointment. The point you made about writing things down also resonated with me because the fact that my therapist documents everything makes me feel that I am taken seriously and that everything is part of a programme which is the idea of a therapy. I hope that people who deal with serious problems in their lives have the courage to seek professional help because it is available to us! Thank you for your videos and for being a therapist that really cares about the human being you are treating.

  43. I friggin love you so much, and wish I loved close enough to see you. I haven't been able to face anything, and even these videos I can only handle in small doses as it leads me to really confront things, even if only on the surface. I am terrified to seek out a professional, because I just want to get genuine help. much like any sort of service, I understand you can and should "shop" around, but when it comes to mental health, at least for me, I self sabotage and avoid it just so I don't have to face the wrong person to help me.

    that being said, I find so much guidance from your videos, and I am forever grateful to you for making them

  44. I wanna be a therapist to help people like myself but then I think I'm never ever gonna be good enough because I can't even help myself… like if I can't help myself how am I gonna be able to help someone else

  45. Last session, my therapist, told me to breathe (not because I was talking her ear off, but because I was sad and trying not to cry). I didn't even realize I had stopped breathing.. So yeah they notice everything.

  46. 0:21 "some are good at our job…. some really suck" and also everywhere inbetween. It's illogical for us everyday people to even consider that a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrists could be bad at their job IMO considering all the years of training, qualifications, university etc. BUT IMO it's very true. Knowing n understanding this is important.

    Another problem I have is that therapist & psychologist are a business. The customer is always right in good business. There is a fine line between 1) telling a client what they want to hear; 2) what they need to hear; 3) or withholding a saying. The choice the therapist/psychologist chooses 1, 2 or 3 is based on the subconsciously or deliberately choosen desired outcome of: 1) get the client to come back and get more business 2) actually help the client 3) desired outcome of 1 & 2 or/and tactfully prioritize subjects/issues in order to best help the client.

    On a side note I'm often in group discussions on various subjects that I often feel little need to chime in. People are often complaining about the system, this or that and all the faults, how broken it is, exploitative etc. If I'm asked to chime in or asked why I'm not chiming in: "the system if F****D, we all know it, get over it. Understand it's F****D and use it as best you can. Pointless wasting all this energy on something you can't change or fix."

  47. I think therapy is great for the average person with common issues. Though your issues may feel unique trust me they are not. There are however people who do not benefit from this kind of expierence. People who you can't just figure out in 6 60min sessions. People need to understand that life isnt great and fixable this easy for everyone.

  48. my family used to see a Psychatrist that sort offered full services in that he engaged in both roles as Therapist and medicine prescriber we lucked out tremendously Dr Paul Myerstorm. Still remember that guy and his office, the one thing though that stands out the most is that he was very devoted to his job in that he often stayed with his clients well past when their appointments expired so if you were going to see him you could pretty much expect to wait an hour or two and this was always at night so by the time we got home especially on a school night it was straight to bed but he really did give his clients the extra mile in capacity. We used to play board games etc.

    I've been in and out of therapy and psychologist for my entire life so there's a few things I could tell you that anyone I might contract EVER as therapist should know the first being YES I was Formally Diagnosed as Asperger's back when the DSM till had Asperger's as a condition and Today I'd probably be diagnosed as on the Autistic spectrum but do not under any conditions over rely on the the text books for somebody with autism because that is the mistake Ive seen doctor after doctor and school adminstator after school adminsitrator make in that if you've met one Autistic you've met one of us.

    Here's a few things MOST people with Autism have problems with that I don't suffer from: The Big one: I Rebel against Too much structure. I do not thrive, my instinct is to burn the whole thing down. Autistic people OFTEN require tons of Structure but I found I often learned best in the complete opposite environment and if we think about structure in the context of school: Grades, Test, Homework.

    All things I would have done better to see done away with entirely, and then there was the "Social learning center" with a complete Tokenized (and condescending) system of Rewards privileges and punishments depending on how well you had dealt with and interacted with the other children in the class room and if you knos boys particularly young boys we were rough on each other horsed around a lot and I got deducted constantly for stupid shit and knocked down levels over and over again.

    when I was younger I was much closer to stereotypes about my Sex than I am today although my friends my true friends tended to be women so it's easier to talk about the horse play back then than now. Now I sort of turn my head at the way boys socialize by beating on each other I guess I ALWAYS felt that way but I was more able to be conscripted and coerced into acting male as a child teetering on the age of 13.

    but the bottom line is the adminstration would have been better served to opt for more unstructured environment.

    The other thing is an autistic I don't take people literally or at least I don't suffer from difficulty telling things apart from when I'm supposed to take people literally and when they're being Sarcastic for instance. I pick up on Sarcasm and Don't have the difficulties surrounding language other people on the spectrum do. The problem I have is that I still communicate like an autistic does in that I don't do what people think I do when it comes to writing and speaking in that I never pack hidden meaning into my words and so if you've picked up on something that was unsaid you're probably imagining it and it only exist in your head and isn't really my problem.

    Neurotypical women in particular seem to rely on their intuitions to mine hidden meaning out of things and as as an autistic communication is very dry and is usually done as means to an end. In this case: to express oneself.

    Where as a Neurotypical is prone to very communication as a Journey where what's relavant is not the destination but every point between the beginning and the end and thus it creates miscommunication problems CONSTANTLY when Autistic's discourse with the Ordinary neurotypical world.

  49. I've had so many people, teachers especially, tell me they think i'd do good as a therapist but I honestly care far to much and I feel like I'd want to make those personal connections that it would be to hard to just let them walk out.

  50. You make me cry — but it's a good type of cry — I've spent 5 years on therapy and I kinda miss that me-time, but I also miss my therapist and it's so super sweet to be able to think about her as a criminal leaving leads 😉

  51. Hi Katie , I have a question… I’m seeing a psychiatrist and she is also a therapist , ¿it’s it a good idea to see a therapist beside my psychiatrist? She is already giving me therapy but it’s it okay if I have another therapist that is not a psychiatrist?

  52. The last therapist l had put a restraining order on me cause I got to deep. She wasn't young like you. I have a harder time believing in you than her. Age is different for all souls.

  53. Can you be my therapist ? my therapists dont know longer what they have to do.I will probably be going away again with empty hands. long life healthcare 😕

  54. Isn't it concerning that a patient's back didn't touch the back of the couch for 2 years in session? Shouldn't there have been some "back-touching" if the therapy was successful?

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